Hi Jake, As always wonderful posts. It saddens me though to read these articles regarding the suicides of my fellow gay human beings because of people that lack humanity and respect. I grew up in South Africa, a very backward country it would seem to many around the world especially compared to America. I grew up being gay and taunted in schools. I also endured years of hell being made to feel like an outcast of the human race because my sexuality was what people considered to be a freak of nature. Maybe because I wanted to prove that I am the same as straight people that I overcame the hurt, the taunting, the beatings to become a confident, assertive and stand up for my rights gay guy in South Africa. We recently celebrated gay pride here in SA and what a wonderful day it was. People of all races, cultures and sexual orientation attended and mingled as if there was nothing wrong. Just the way it should be. However during the march there were some haters that expressed their disgust, but who cares. I would just like to say to people in this group and whoever else may read this, it's not advice guys, but just my personal view and what has helped me in my life.... Remember that you didn't choose to be gay, you were born this way. God loves you no matter what anybody tells you and it is only to God that you need to answer. to the people that abuse,bash,taunt and make you feel inferior, take a stand against them. When you give in, you give them the power to continue doing it. Take a stand and show them that you have every right to a normal life just like them and that their hate only motivates you to make a change. No taunting is worth you taking your life, because that is the ultimate power for a bully. So when you think it's too much to handle, don't contemplate suicide as hard as it may be, turn to a friend, form a group and seek help. Go to the police, and demand that they assist you as it is constititional right. To the families who have lost their loved ones due to this tragic sympathies, you don't know me, and I don't know you, but I feel your pain. It could've been me! Jake, keep up the good work buddy. Moderator: Thanks to you and all other members for their messages on
gay teen suicide. Since the very beginning, I have always been
focused on this problem. I believe that all the talk about gay
marriage as well as ending DADT is increasing the shame/hate
amongst gay teens. The same has gone towards the black
community as we now have a black president. White people who never
displayed bogotry are now using the N word regarding our president. The hate was so strong
against Obama (being that he is is black) that the KKK took off
the sheet and proudly display themselves as the TEA PARTY.
I hold the unviversities, colleges, schools responsible. They
ignore the discrimination that occurs in college dorms, high
school locker rooms. Also, I blame the churches for not
teaching tolerance. Several parents are to blame as well. Too
many gay kids do not "come out," because of their parents. They get
married and live a lie. Some kill themselves. There are
shrinks that are anti-gay. There are pastors that are anti-gay. The
Islamic religion is anti-gay. The Morman religion is anti-gay.
The catholic Church is anti-gay. The list goes on and on. The
south USA is anti-gay. Iraq, Saudi Arabia, Iran, etc are anti-
gay. Islamic gay people seek refuge in Tel Aviv, Israel.
Israel grants immunity to islamic people who are gay. The USA needs
to do the same and we beginning to react towards this situation. .....jake
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From: Jake <jakewest_tn@yahoo.com>
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It is our hope that these photos shall inspire you! Today's Health/Excercise "Special" Message: Homophobia: The Plague That Is Killing Our Youth Huffington Post / Jason Mannino/ 10-11-10 Our hope is that our family's personal tragedy will serve as a call for compassion, empathy and human dignity. "
--Clementi Family
The tragedy referred to in the quote above is one no family should ever have to endure. This statement came after Tyler Clementi, an 18-year-old accomplished musician, who had only been a student at Rutgers University for one month, jumped to his death from the George Washington Bridge. It's fairly common knowledge now that he was the fifth young gay man in September to take his own life after enduring severe harassment and bullying for being gay or perceived to be gay. Seth Walsh, 13 years old. California. Hanging.
Asher Brown, 13 years old. Texas. Self-inflicted gunshot wound with his step-father's gun.
Billy Lucas, 15 years old. Indiana. Hanging.
Tyler Clementi, 18 years old. New Jersey. Jumped off of the George Washington Bridge.
Raymond Chase, 19 years old. Rhode Island. Hanging. It saddens me that almost exactly one and a half years ago I wrote an article about homophobia and suicide among LGBT youth. Today, I write an almost identical article with practically the same statistics. Research conducted by GLSEN in 2009 indicates that nine out of ten LGBT youth report harassment in school. According to Massachusetts 2006 Youth Risk Survey, LGBTQ youth are four times more likely to attempt suicide. A 2009 study, "Family Rejection as a Predictor of Negative Health Outcomes "led by Dr. Caitlin Ryan and conducted as part of the Family Acceptance Project at San Francisco State University, shows that adolescents who were rejected by their families for being LGBT were 8.4 times more likely to report having attempted suicide. Five suicides (and that's only five that have been publicized) in three weeks is profoundly tragic and more than sufficient to sound the "enough is enough" alarm. Once again, I feel my stomach doing backflips as I engage in conversation about the homophobia and hatred entrenched in our culture. I have been having this conversation since I was an undergraduate student, of all places, at Rutgers University, which is a place where I felt safe, accepted and free to explore and embrace diversity. When I heard the news of Clementi, I asked myself how the experience that he went through occurred at such a progressive university. I then discovered alarming research conducted by Sara Konrath and Edward Obrien at University of Michigan that indicates that empathy among young adults and college students has dropped significantly since 2000. They went as far as to say that our culture's overexposure to violent media (i.e. video games) potentially desensitizes people to the pain of others. In addition, they indicate that the fast paced online world of social networking makes it easier to shut out the problems of others when we just don't feel like listening. None of this changes the fact that we have a government that sanctions homophobia and discrimination. When the government upholds laws that allow our armed forces to discharge people, who are adding tremendous value by serving our country with honor and integrity, on the basis of sexual orientation, we are teaching our kids to hate. When we uphold laws that sanctify marriage as only valid between men and women we are teaching our kids to hate. When 28 states in our country can still legally fire LGBT people from their jobs and 33 states can legally fire transgendered people from their jobs, we are teaching our kids to hate.
My heart overflows with compassion for these young people who felt they had no alternative except to complete suicide. My compassion overflows to their families. Also, I feel compassion for the young people who have learned to perpetrate hate and violence towards LGBT people. Children are taught to hate and fear diversity in their homes (40 percent of LGBT youth are kicked out of their homes when they come out of the closet), and in their churches. Justin Early, author of "Streetchild: An Unpaved Passage," which is his memoir of his life as a gay, homeless youth, speaks first hand when he says, "It's sadly ironic that for millions of children, the deadly streets seem safer than many of the homophobic homes, schools and other mainstream communities that we would otherwise deem safe and comforting." It follows that when kids learn to hate at home the next place they express it is in school. Ten percent of all hate crimes occur at schools and colleges. If hate is learned, then it lies on the shoulders of our schools, church officials, parents, teachers, and communities to teach our young kids acceptance before they continue hurting each other, and before they become adults who will likely pass their hatred to the next generation. Of course the home is made up of individuals, and it is with each of us individually where the process of dissolving the plague of homophobia begins. Each of us must look into our own hearts and ask some difficult questions. How in my life and in my consciousness have I contributed to the perpetuation of homophobia and violence? Where do I harbor hatred? How can I heal this within me and participate in healing it among our children, schools, churches, governments? Today (Monday, October 11) is National Coming Out Day. This is a perfect time, whether you are LGBTQ or straight, black, white, Asian, Latino, disabled or simply identify as a human being, to come out against hatred and take a stand for the expression of love of all beings regardless of differences. This is a time to send the message that as human beings inhabiting this planet we have a right to fully express the deepest truth of who we really are (as long as you don't hurt yourself or others). It is time to forgive ourselves for our silence and for perpetuating this treachery. As I let my tears and anguish flow for the collective pain we have as a culture for allowing this to happen to our children I implore you to do the same. Let your tears go, reveal your pain, as you ask yourself, "How could we let this happen to our children?!?" And, when you are finished crying, stand up, declare, "No more!" and add your fire to the flame of love we must light to guide the way for our young people who deserve to live long lives fully embraced, nurtured and loved in the truth of who they are, regardless of seeming differences among sexual orientation, race or gender. If you are a young LGBTQ person reading this who needs resources, please, know there are people who care about you and that there is support available (see below). As a gay man who was once a teenager dodging name-calling and taunting, wondering where his place was in this world, I know your pain, and I care about your pain. Consider joining: Take Action: And Now, Our War of the Fittest! This group is called "Peckers PICS." The English - slang definition of "pecker" is to pluck at the truth. Therefore, we peck at items such as Gay Men's Health, Male Fitness, Gay (LGBT) Politics & Issues. In this section you may peck at each photo in order to decide the winner of the "war of the fittest!" Whereas, you should select the guy that may inspire you to exercise and "get fit!" Warning: This may stoke you! Remember your participation in discussion of health / news articles - appearing in this message is greatly appreciated!  1Derrill  2Carter  3Ted & Jase  4 Dale  5  6  7Arrested!  8  9FOLSOM STREET FAIR; San Fran, CA; Sep 26, 2010  10Teo  11  12FOLSOM STREET FAIR; San Fran, CA; Sep 26, 2010  13FOLSOM STREET FAIR; San Fran, CA; Sep 26, 2010  14  14a You Decide! FOLSOM STREET FAIR; San Fran, CA; Sep 26, 2010 Stoked? FOLSOM STREET FAIR; San Fran, CA; Sep 26, 2010 Super Stoked? FOLSOM STREET FAIR; San Fran, CA; Sep 26, 2010 Carl Paladino: Don't Be 'Brainwashed' Into Thinking Homosexuality Is 'Equally Valid' By Amanda Terkel / Huffington Post / Updated 10/11/10 New York Republican gubernatorial candidate Carl Paladino spoke on gay rights to a group of orthodox Jewish leaders in Brooklyn today, promising to veto marriage equality legislation and touting the fact that he didn't march in this year's gay pride parade. In his remarks, Paldadino said: We must stop pandering to the pornographers and the perverts, who seek to target our children and destroy their lives. I didn't march in the gay parade parade this year -- the gay pride parade this year. My opponent did. And that's not the example that we should be showing our children, certainly not in our schools. (APPLAUSE) And don't misquote me as wanting to hurt homosexual people in any way; that would be a dastardly lie. My approach is live and let live. I just think my children, and your children, will be much better off, and much more successful getting married and raising a family. And I don't want them to be brainwashed into thinking that homosexuality is an equally valid or successful option. It isn't. (APPLAUSE) According to Newsday's Reid Epstein, the line, "There is nothing to be proud of in being a dysfunctional homosexual. That is not how G-d created us" was in Paladino's prepared text but left out of his actual speech. In response to Paladino's remarks, Cuomo spokesman Josh Vlasto put out a statement reading, "Mr. Paladino's statement displays a stunning homophobia and a glaring disregard for basic equality. These comments along with other views he has espoused make it clear that he is way out of the mainstream and is unfit to represent New York." Paladino's campaign manager Michael Caputo also responded, drawing a contrast between the two candidates: "There's a very clear difference between Andrew Cuomo and Carl Paladino. One of them is that Andrew Cuomo promises gay marriage will be legal in the first year of his administration. Carl Paladino has promised he would veto any such legislation. We believe that when the people of New York understand exactly where both candidates stand on this particular issue they will make their choices accordingly."
 ....Jake Remember: Boycott Target and Best Buy for donating money towards anti-gay political candidates/organizations and to Proposition 8 (California) to prevent gay marriage. The Formal Boycott began this past weekend. I stopped shopping these stores - even though I want a new washer/dryer and new clothes for the Fall. I would not purchase "Blood Diamonds," nor should a person / organization be contributing funds to both Hitler / Nazi's and the Jews at the same time! Obviously giving money to the Jews and not Hitler/Nazi's is the right thing to do. Hence, these companies violated my trust and well-being. They gave money to my enemy who would terminate me from my job, deny me housing and send me to a Internment camp. Therefore, goodbye Target and Best Buy! The CEO's of these companies have been insensitive to our reaction and do not even comprehend their actions! What takes so long to "fire" these Neanderthals? |
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