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How To Help Someone With Depression

By Linda Wasmer Andrews; December 11, 2011

You mean well, but it's easy to say the wrong thing to a loved one who has the blues. And that may only add to his or her troubles. Here are the top 9 statements to avoid and what to say to help someone overcome depression...

Which piece of advice will most likely cheer up a clinically depressed person?

A. "Pull yourself together."
B. "Look on the bright side."
C. "Don't worry. It's nothing serious."

The answer: None of the above. Such statements probably will make a depressed mate or friend feel worse.

That's because depression – an illness characterized by extreme sadness, changes in sleep patterns, appetite, energy level or mental focus – is a touchy subject and difficult to talk about.

Unlike high blood pressure or other health conditions, "there's unnecessary stigma attached to depression," says Richard Shadick, Ph.D., director of the counseling center at Pace University in New York. "Some people still view it as a sign of weakness."

And that makes for awkward conversations on both sides. But talking about depression easily and openly isn't impossible. With some forethought, you can find the right words to help ease depression's pain.Here are 9 statements to skip, and the right way to start a dialogue.

1. "Snap out of it."
Depression is a miserable experience; no one would choose to have it, says psychologist Shosana Bennett, Ph.D., author of Pregnant on Prozac and a postpartum depression survivor.

If depressed people "could snap out of it, [they] would've done so," she says.

People with depression can't will away the illness any more than they could asthma or diabetes. Like those other conditions, depression has a biological basis.

Imaging studies show that the parts of the brain that regulate mood, thinking, sleep and appetite function abnormally in people with depression. Key mood-regulating brain chemicals, such as serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine, are unbalanced as well.

Better to say: "I've noticed you haven't been sleeping well lately, and I'm concerned. Why don't I set up a doctor's appointment for you?"

Some people won't see a doctor for depression but will agree to a visit for specific symptoms – such as insomnia, loss of appetite or constant fatigue, says Julie Totten, president and founder of Families for Depression Awareness.

2. "Just think positive."
People with depression often perceive themselves and the world in an overly negative light. They're incapable of seeing the bright side of a situation.

"It's like you're wearing these foggy, distorted lenses, which filter out all positive input from the environment," Bennett says.

When she was depressed, she literally saw the world in drab gray shades, she says.

Implying that recovery should be quick and easy may leave them feeling more discouraged than ever.

Better to say: "We'll get through this." This lets the depressed person know the world won't always seem so dark and hopeless. At the same time, the statement acknowledges that recovery is a process.

Plus, "use of the word `we' is very important," Bennett says. "A [depressed] person feels all alone, so it's crucial to reinforce the idea that you're there for them."

Treatment with psychotherapy and/or antidepressants can help, and with time can regain a brighter perspective.

3. "Relax. It's no big deal."

"Truth is, depression really hurts a person's ability to function," says Thomas Wise, M.D., psychiatry professor at George Washington University School of Medicine in Washington, D.C.

It can seriously disrupt home, work or school life, and wreck relationships. Left untreated, depression can even lead to suicide.

About 30%-40% of people who die by suicide have major depression, according to the National Mental Health Information Center (NMHIC).

Better to say: "Do you feel like you want to hurt yourself?"

If someone is seriously depressed, don't be afraid to discuss suicide.

"People often worry that asking this question will plant the idea," Totten says.

In fact, asking just lets them know you understand the seriousness of their situation, she says. It also helps you determine if there's imminent danger.

If they answer "yes," reassure them that such feelings are temporary. Then call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800 -273-TALK or 800-273-8255) to speak with a crisis worker, who'll help identify your next step.

4. "I know exactly how you feel."
This statement sounds empathetic, but really isn't. If you've never been clinically depressed, you can't know what it feels like.

Even if you have, no two people experience this illness the same way.

"Nobody can know how anyone else feels unless they ask and listen carefully to the answer," says Elizabeth Babcock, LCSW, a psychotherapist in McMurray, Pa.

Better to say: "Do you want to talk?"

But preface your question with a statement that lets the person know you want to understand, Babcock suggests. For example: "I can't imagine how hard this must be for you." Or, "I don't know what it's like to experience what you're going through, but I'd really like to understand it better – if you want to tell me." Or, "I've been depressed, too, and I can't know what your experience is like, but I know mine was really hard."

After you state your concern, ask questions and really listen to the answers.

5. "Have a drink. You'll feel better."
"Alcohol may lessen the immediate pain of depression, but over time, it only makes the hurt worse," Wise says.

Trying to self-medicate with alcohol or other drugs can also lead to addiction and new problems. Plus, abusing alcohol or other drugs increases the suicide risk by impairing judgment and promoting impulsive behavior.

Better to say: "Want to go for a walk?"

Exercise is a proven mood-lifter, according to a 2005 University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center study. Researchers found it's as effective as antidepressants in treating mild to moderate depression.Walking together also helps the person stay physically healthy and socially connected.

Plus, it's good for you too, which is important. It's easy to overlook your own health when caring for someone else.

Or pick another cardio activity your depressed loved one once enjoyed, even if they can't get pleasure from it right now. If they're reluctant, say it's a favor to you. For example: "I've been wanting to try this yoga class. Will you come with me?"

6. "Stop feeling so sorry for yourself."
A judgmental tone makes depressed people feel sadder.

"[They're] already judging themselves quite harshly," Babcock says.

If you're critical, they're "being abused from within and without," he says.

Better to say: "This can happen to the best of us." Rather than fueling misplaced self-blame, send a message that depression isn't their fault.

This also underscores the fact that it's a common illness striking women of every age and background. One in four U.S. women will experience serious depression at some point in her life, according to NMHIC.

7. "You have so much to be happy about."
The criticism here is subtle. "All this statement does is guilt-trip," Bennett says.

Depression sufferers may know intellectually that they have a good job and great family. Still, they're unable to feel happy.

"They may end up wondering, `Am I just a spoiled brat?'" Bennett says.

Better to say: "You seem really down lately. Is there anything I can do?"

Acknowledging that something's wrong is often a relief.

"This lets the depressed person know that you can see [the problem] too," Babcock says. "It's not something imaginary."

You're also reminding them that you're there to help.

8. "Wait and see how you feel tomorrow."
That approach might have worked for Scarlett O'Hara. But depression that sticks around for weeks or months isn't going to suddenly disappear when the sun comes up the next day. The sooner the person seeks treatment, the faster they can start feeling better. Better to say: "There's a lot of help out there."

"Instill hope that there are effective treatments available," Shadick says.

If this is the first time they've been depressed, offer to set up an appointment with their doctor, which can confirm or rule out medical causes for the symptoms.

Because deeply depressed people may be too demoralized to speak up for themselves, go with them on the first visit or call ahead to let the doctor know your concerns, Totten advises.

You can also suggest seeing a mental health professional if the other person is open to the idea. Search online and ask people you trust for referrals to clinics, psychologists or psychiatrists.

9. "It's all up to you now."
Depression is very treatable, but full recovery takes time, commitment and support.

Without helping hands, patients may be more likely to feel discouraged and give up when challenges arise, as they inevitably do.

Better to say: "Can I watch the kids while you go to your appointment?"

Or offer to help however you can.

Suggesting specific ways you can make things easier helps depression sufferers pinpoint what they need. And when it's your idea, they may also feel it's less of an imposition to lean on you.Once you see improvement, point that out too.

"Be specific about how you see them returning to their old selves," Bennett says. "That way, they have hard evidence that they're coming back."

For example, you might say: "It's nice to hear you singing in the shower again." Or you've noticed he's eating better or flashing his beautiful smile.

Your words have tremendous power to help a loved one find help and stick with treatment. At every stage, one of the best things you can say is, "I'm on your side."

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Rick Perry heckled over gays in military campaign ad
LA Times - Dec 11, 2011 - By Paul West

Reporting from Ames, Iowa-- Rick Perry took another shot at Mitt Romney's offer of a $10,000 bet, but the Texas governor found himself under fire himself Sunday, heckled at a campaign stop over anti-gay bias, including by a man identifying himself as a Marine veteran from the Iraq war.

The heckling followed Perry's brief remarks to Iowa voters at a coffee shop in downtown Ames.

"Why are you demonizing gay and lesbian people?" shouted one heckler.

"Why can't gays compete in the military?" chimed in Jason Arment, 24, an English major at nearby Iowa State University. Arment, of Grimes, Iowa, who said he was straight, said he served with the Marines in Iraq in 2007 and 2008,

Perry is airing a campaign ad, aimed at evangelical Christians in Iowa, in which he says that "there's something wrong in this country when gays can serve openly in the military but our kids can't openly celebrate Christmas or pray in school." Sunday marked the first time the candidate was confronted over the ad on the trail. (Watch Perry's ad below.)

Arment, in a brief interview, said that he found the Perry ad "extremely offensive" and "insulting" to service members.

The governor did not respond to the hecklers and left the coffee shop shortly afterward.

On his way out, Perry told reporters that he found it "a little out of the ordinary" that Romney had extended his hand and offered a $10,000 wager that his campaign book did not contain a line about making the Massachusetts healthcare mandate a model for the nation, as Perry had claimed in the televised debate.

Repeating a line that he used earlier in the day on Fox News Sunday, Perry said that such a large wager is "way out of the ordinary for most Iowans. To have an extra $10,000 that you would throw down on a bet is a little out of the ordinary."

"I'm not a betting man. so it was no harm, no foul from my perspective," the governor added. "I would suggest to you that $10,000 is pocket change for Mitt to make that statement. But you'll need to ask him, you know. Maybe it was just a misstatement or something. Who knows?"

Video (Perry's AD): http://youtu.be/0PAJNntoRgA

http://www.latimes.com/news/politics/la-pn-perry-heckled-20111211,0,4491020.story
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Pass This Bill! - Occupy Wall Street!
 
Proposed Petition for Redress and Pledge of Action

By Bear

[Side Note: Originally placed on Facebook, November 19, 2011]

[Side Note: Catalyst for Petition: Occupy Wall Street, Action
Required by 99%]

In 1776, representatives of the residents in thirteen North
American colonies adopted a Declaration of Independence that
set forth the philosophical principles behind their recent
and future actions, their grievances against King George III
of Great Britain, and the redress they sought. The Declaration
famously illuminated the unalienable rights of life, liberty,
and the pursuit of happiness held by all women and men. The
writer of the Declaration substituted "pursuit of happiness"
for "property" found in earlier formulations of enumerated
natural rights, considering property to be a creation of humans
that is valued, protected, and used but not intrinsic to human
endeavor.

After struggle, victory, and peace, representatives of the
citizens of the thirteen sovereign, independent states established
from initial trial and error, through debate and consensus a
new form of government of, by, and for the people. That
government has withstood invasion, wars of expansion, defense,
principle, ideology and questionable motive, economic
transformations, immigration of individuals from every part
of the world, cultural awakenings, social unrest and political
corruption, assassinations, and a great conflagration that
soaked this country's fields with blood from self-inflicted
wounds and tore the fabric of its shared civic culture. That
government has evolved as its creators intended to meet new
challenges and provided infrastructure, regulations, and
services as the need arose. That government remains a beacon
of hope for all human beings seeking democratic, representative,
responsible, humane, and limited rule over their affairs.

Today, many citizens of the United States of America fear their
government has become a creature of the wealthy, the corporations
from which the wealthy derive their resources, and the politicians
driven to act in the interests of those corporations due to
their need for funds to fuel their endless campaigns to stay in
office. Some of those citizens have made their concerns known
by occupying parks, streets, and public areas in the cities and
other locations around this country. These peaceful groups have
called upon the one percent that wields power through wealth and
elected office to return the government, its policies, laws,
regulations, and justice to the ninety-nine percent that have
the capacity to fuel the economy, generate jobs, mobilize society,
and move forward but are starved of the resources to do so. They
seek change.

As the colonial representatives knew two hundred thirty-five
years ago, great change must be founded on rational principles
soundly developed from evidence, facts, and natural law. Such
are the times now that some choose to twist, dissect, or profane
the principles supporting change out of fear, ignorance, or
self-interest. Nonetheless, the foundations for change are
present for all to see. The evidence is clear.

We truly are created equal, endowed with certain rights, among
which are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. We all
require and are entitled to consistent shelter, social and
familial companionship, wellness and good health, education to
our potential, full and complete nourishment, adequate clothing,
employment of our skills and knowledge, and safety from harm.
We build communities. We support our brothers and sisters
regardless of skin color, religion, ability, belief, condition,
sex, attribute, or characteristic.  We treat one another with
respect and dignity. We are a diverse, compassionate nation of
free individuals.

The ninety-nine percent are held back by the actions and whims
of the one percent. Witness the facts: the wealthy have steadily
increased their share of the nation's wealth at the expense of
the poor and middle classes; politicians have pledged to enact
no taxes despite the necessity for revenues to meet the needs
of the people and revitalize our nation's infrastructure;
corporations have been deemed persons with political rights,
allowing these corporations to support candidates and political
causes financially, thereby drowning out the voices of voters;
elected officials have engaged the nation in lengthy, unwarranted
wars that have sapped the economy, killed  and harmed tens of
thousands of people, and invoked ill feelings abroad; state
legislators and governors have used the narrow tenets of religion
as the sole basis for laws that restrict the exercise of
fundamental human rights by all; politicians have set out
arbitrary and selfish requirements prior to debate on issues
that require negotiation and consensus; companies, business
groups, and single-issue interests have used their resources
to influence and shape legislation and regulations for their
limited benefit, squeezing out the common good; representatives
have conducted inquiries and provided earmarked funds for their
own self promotion; laws have been passed to address issues
that do not actually exist and other laws have not been taken
up that would address pressing concerns, all for partisan gain;
the judiciary has become suspect of issuing opinions based on
ideology and party affiliation rather than the law and common
sense; financiers and investors have used the markets and banks
with little oversight and adjustable scruples to speculate,
profit, and gain without adding real value to the economy; many
news media businesses have adopted clear ideological perspectives
while continuing to claim the mantle of unbiased journalism; the
United States Senate has adopted rules that require almost all
legislation to find support from many more than half plus one
members of the chamber, making a mockery of the idea of unlimited
debate established by the nation's founders; and candidates for
public office have created the endless election cycle in their
quest to hold onto their offices once acquired.

These are reasons for deep concern regarding the future of this
nation. Their mitigation and elimination require substantial
action. Citizens that have occupied Wall Street, Oakland, the
tundra, Albany, and other places have taken the first step in
calling attention to the plight of the ninety-nine percent and
the power of the one percent. This petition is the next. We seek
redress of our grievances from the government, the wealthy, and
the corporations. We seek the resources to take action to correct
the deficiencies that have arisen in this country. We seek the
means to rebuild our communities and the support to fulfill our
essential needs. We seek dignity and honor from our labors. We
seek peace, security, and fulfillment. In return, we offer action.
We offer involvement in our cities, towns, and villages. We offer
engagement with those that need. We offer ourselves to the
betterment of our country and the future. We offer participation
in civic culture as a defense against the weaknesses of apathy
and self-absorption. We offer to be active, American citizens.

Bear – 8 November 2011
 
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