i was bullied through grade school, high school and even at CHURCH. I was the one that everyone made fun of. I never came out until I was 21 and in college. I never confronted, or confided in anyone about what I was feeling and who I was lookin at. I kept it all inside. It was though a thunderstorm was continuously brewing, however at times calmed, but never stopped.
It is truely sad, that today, it still continues. It seems that the bullies are the one having the turmoil and don't know how to cope with it, so they have to BULLY to make themselves "worthy". Bullies have to make someone else feel bad about themselves to feel superior. Bullies need HELP in coping with their feelings which for the most part comes in the way of "professional help". Most bullies don't feel they need help because they will not feel that superiority.
I never stood up to any of the bullies that I encountered, I usually looked at the ground and walked away or "turned the other cheek", as my parents told me was the biblical thing to do. You would think that Church would have been a great place to escape it all, but it followed me there also. I had no place to get away from it except in my room on the farm/ranch.
Yes I played football in high school, but being bullied never, NEVER stopped. I was determined to get my high school deploma with honors and go to college, when alot of the kids i went to school with did NOT pursue their education. When i moved away from home, I MOVED AWAY FROM HOME. I have never been back for a class/school reunion.
Kids today, need to know that they are not going through this alone. They need to find a NON-SEXUAL mentor who will be non biased and give suggestions to what options there are. When you are being bullied and have suicide in your thoughts, its TUNNEL VISION. It would be great to have more and better counseling centers for gay teens. PARENTS need to be involved, instead of shunning their sons/daughters to where they will not talk to their parents about this. There needs to be parenting classes for parents with gay children to teach better coping skills.
From: David Reyes <damsreyes2011@yahoo.com>
To: Peckers_Pics@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Fri, January 14, 2011 11:05:40 PM
Subject: Re: [Peckers_Pics] ReTeenagae son bullied
| To Thomas Cummings I totally understand where you are coming from I too am a Cherokee Indian and was a faithful Roman Catholic member I am a Sergeant, governor and Admiration son all roll up in one. I got older I too had major troubles in excepting my sexuality I try suicide multiple times before I finally except sexuality and it was never going to change it over whelming that I finally had to come to terms into confess to my mom and dad that I was gay. Knowing my mom was somewhat ok with the idea not completely happy with it she took it better then dad. As for dad she went bananas giving me the act of not being his son to I was going to hell if I continue going the way I was going. As for school bulling my worse bully was my next door neighbor Chris he started calling me ��� Caveman��� where did he get the idea I will never know So yes I know what you are going through. To finalize everything I manage to finish high school and went out to college and own several of my family business from my college teachings. As for my parents they finally came to terms about my sexuality and found out that I was not that tarible son they once thought they had long ago. After many encounters with a therapist I finally came to terms with my sexuality. --- On Fri, 1/14/11, Thomas Cummings <thomascumm@yahoo.com> wrote:
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